~In the words of the Grammar Snob.....I tend to curse and make little things seem like BIG FREAKING THINGS and overreact and think the world revolves around me. BUT! I can be sweet and charming sometimes. You should focus on those times.~

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

I have a Right
To be treated as you would a friend or family member
I have a Right
To always be treated with respect even if you think I don't deserve it.
I have a Right
To control what I do.
I have a Right to be
Heard, Listened to, treated like my feelings and opinions matter.
I have a Right
To be human and to make mistakes, and to apologize only if I think I should.
I have a Right
To be treated like an Intelligent person even if you think what I say is wrong or stupid.
I have a Right
to choose what to keep and discard what I don't like.
I have a Right
to make my own decisions, form my own opinions, and walk away if I don't like what I hear.
I do NOT have the Right
To make others conform to my ways, my thoughts, my feelings.
I do NOT have the Right
To take away someones validations.
I do NOT have the Right
To take someones feelings, opinions, and reasoning a throw it away.
I do NOT have the Right
To expect another to hear all that Ihave to say and not acknowledge what they want to say.
I do NOT have the Right
To make another feel bad or gulity if I feel bad myself.
Happiness and/or love is not, never was, and never will be an outside thing, person, or situation. We simply CHOOSE to let things affect us in positive and negative ways. Happiness and love are not "out there". A person is happy because they CHOOSE to be happy despite life's circumstances. Choosing happiness comes FIRST, and then the rest of an individual's inner and outer life reflects that with absolute perfection. CHOOSE to be happy despite life's circumstances, and life's circumstances will change as a result of you CHOOSING to be happy! This can't possibly be understood unless put to practice. Our life will only change for the better once we change our outlooks, attitudes, and thought processes. The outer will only change once we change the inner FIRST. Stop choosing to accept things as being negative and just let things BE. Let the negatives go and CHOOSE to be happy! Nothing makes you angry, sad, etc, except your DECISION to be. "He who angers you, conquers you." There are NO outer battles to be fought in life. It all comes down to overcoming our OWN negative limiting thought processes.Happiness and freedom are the result of realizing that nothing whatsoever is needed in order to be happy because happiness has already been CHOSEN, despite what happens in life. Happiness is a choice, and true freedom comes from not needing anything outside oneself. Choosing to be happy at ALL times eventually brings inner wholeness, completion, and peace. If one is already complete, NOTHING else is needed. Attachment to outside things will actually bring suffering because one is searching for true happiness where it cannot be found. Happiness is being grasped for rather than just realized. We realize and experience the happiness and Love that we ARE, by sharing it with others. We share it with others by simply BEING it, and leading by example. We change the world because of what we are, not necessarily because of what we do. What we do is simply an automatic reflection of what we are. Therefore, what we do IS what we are. When we deny love and happiness in others, we're actually denying it within ourself.When you focus on your problems, you're giving them more energy and a greater physical reality. This is focusing on the negatives and perpetuating your problems even further. Problems are created by focusing on the me, myself, and I. When your time and focus is put towards the helping of the greater whole, your own life "problems" will automatically disappear and resolve themselves because your focus and energy is no longer on them. It may just be realized that those problems were all in your head to begin with. There was only a problem to begin with because of false beliefs. The ONLY thing that separates one individual from another is how they CHOOSE to accept life's situations. So back to the original point.. CHOOSE happiness, joy, love, gratitude, peace, acceptance, forgiveness, respect, etc., towards oneself and ALL others, and your outer life situations will change accordingly! It's the emotions, feelings, ideas, concepts, opinions, and beliefs that the individual attaches TO THINGS, that creates problems. There are no problems except what we BELEIVE are problems. Everything you believe, is the truth, but only to you, and only because you believe it's the truth. You've set those laws and limitations upon yourself, with your thoughts. So it's a matter of relinquishing and letting go of those opinions and beliefs, and replacing them with positives that are actually beneficial to you, your life, and all others. But if an individual is getting some sort of satisfaction out of their negative mentalities... that's a whole different matter because the truth is only for those who want it, and for those who want to solve all of their life problems, by puting it to practice.

I don't remember who wrote this or where I found it. I've had it saved on my puter for some time now and I just really like it!

Tuesday, January 9, 2007

Well I didn’t get an update out for November or December. So just to give you a synopsis, the kids were kids. They did something cute that made us laugh, then they did something annoying that made us want to pull our hair out. Then they were cute again, and annoying, and cute. See a pattern?

I can’t believe it’s 2007. Time, literally, flies. Whether you’re having fun or not! Allen is still working his hinny off. And if only his work would literally work that hinny off he’d be in good shape. We have a goal to get him retired by Christmas! We spent New Years weekend down at the ranch and boy was it COLD! Never again will be spend New Years down there!

I started Weight Watchers last week. I’m determined to be half of me by next Christmas. I’ve given up french fries as a New Years resolution. I’ve also apparently given up doing the dishes! We’ll see how long both of those last (I bet I’ll eat a french fry before I wash the dishes!). I’m not up to much of anything different. Church callings, baby-sitting, piano, and taxi service, etc. I’ve put together a curriculum for a Movement and Music class and hope to start up a couple of those a week.

Cori is turning SIX this year. Man I feel like she was just born last year or something. She is doing really well in Kindergarten. She loves her teachers and is becoming quite the little reader. She is too smart for her britches. For years we’ve spelled things we didn’t want her to know about. She now can pretty much decode any word! Last month I spelled C-H-R-I-S-T-M-A-S in front of her and she came back like TWO HOURS later and asked if I was talking to daddy about Santa! We can, of course, chalk this all up to her great preschool teachers from last year! She’s doing well with piano, although for the next year my sister, Natalie, is going to take over teaching her. Cori and I bump heads a little and I don’t always have enough patience w/ her. So I think she’ll progress a little better w/out me for now.

Ethan is so sweet and such a brat and such a boy! All at the same time! He will be FOUR next Tuesday! He has been diagnosed with Sensory Integration Dysfunction (SID) along with the speech problems he’s always had. He is still in developmental preschool, although we plan on putting him in the same preschool Cori was in last year. His problems are so minor compared to other kids and I really feel that he’ll do better in an environment w/ more “normal” kids as models. We’ve just switched him to a Gluten Free/Casein Free diet. He has had such problems w/ his bowels, even after he potty trained, that I was becoming concerned (and frustrated at all the laundry I was doing everyday). Then as I was learning more about SID, I discovered that digestion problems go hand and hand w/ it. It’s a bit of a pain because just about EVERYTHING has Gluten in it! And the Casein is, of course, dairy. He’s been off of milk for a while, but now I can’t even give him mac and cheese or anything like that. We’ve only been doing this for a few days now, but a friend of mine who put her son on this diet saw dramatic changes in her son’s behavior. So I’m crossing my fingers for the same. Ethan should be starting gymnastics really soon. This is something that should also help w/ his SID issues.

Georgie-Porgie is the still the cutest thing ever, ornerier than the other two put together. She’s not saying too much yet. Mama, Daddy, Grama, ba-ba, please, thank you, and other small words. She can absolutely understand everything we say to her and pretty much does what she’s asked, which is strange for a 17-month-old. She picks up her toys and puts dishes in the sink. It's amazing! If only she were a little taller, then maybe she could wash the dishes for me! She’s also the first 17-month-old I’ve ever met who covers her mouth when she sneezes or coughs! It shocks me every time she does it!

And that’s it for the month! I hope you all have a wonderful new year!

Friday, January 5, 2007

Why I won't let me kids have Heely's EVER

Would you let your child roller blade or skate in McDonald's? Well that's what they are doing w/ Heely's. I don't care if it's w/ just one wheel, it's still skating. Parents are stupid sometimes.